Unguarded or unfiltered words often come out of our mouths when we are in stressful situations. And the more stressful the situation, the more unguarded or unfiltered the words seem to be and the quicker they seem to come out. If we are seeking help because of our stressful situation and our words come out too quickly and too unguardedly, we often say the wrong things and run the risk of losing out on what we are seeking. On top of that, if there are requisite conditions to be met in order to get help, our unguarded words could indicate an inability to meet the conditions. For example, if I desperately need your help and your condition is that I proclaim my love for your daughter; if I say that I love her, I position myself to get the help I am looking for. However, if I blurt out that I don’t love her or that I only like her, I’m sunk. Let’s turn the tables a bit. If you were the one who is setting the requisite conditions, how would you respond if they are not followed?