“Are you for us or against us?” “Neither!” We seem to have this predisposition to want to know whether people are for us or against us. If they are for us, meaning they are in agreement with what’s important to us, then we can associate with them. If they are against us, then we can’t associate with them. In this day and age of polarization, the “for or against us” predisposition seems to be even more prevalent. Compounding it all, we seem to focus our “for or against us” on single issue items. Perhaps it’s being for or against abortion or where we fall on gender and sexuality issues or our level of commitment to the environmental or our position on immigration. But polarization really understates things as positions have become even more extreme and entrenched. There doesn’t seem to be any room for common courtesy or looking for common ground or trying to understand the positions that we disagree with. So if I am asked if I’m for something ...